The Respect My Red Leadership Training Institute
For Student Leaders and School Professionals

Where:
Columbus Academy
4300 Cherry Bottom Road
Gahanna, OH 43230

When:
Thursday, October 17, 2019
5:30 PM – 8:00 PM EDT
(5:30 – 6:00 PM for All Attendees
Part 1 6:00 – 8:00 PM for School Administrators
Part 2 6:00 – 8:00 PM for Student Leaders and Advisors)

Join area high schools for a 2 Part Training Event on Sexual Misconduct, Healthy Relationships and Consent
Part 1: Policy Institute on Sexual Misconduct for School Administrators
Part 2: Respect My Red Leadership Training Institute for Students

Attendees
11th Grade Student Leaders. Dean of Students. Heads of School. Division Directors. Counselors. Health & Wellness Professionals. Campus Ministers. Campus Safety Officers, Principals, Diversity Directors. Athletic Administrators. Coaches. HR Officers. Communications Directors. Risk Managers. Business Managers, IT Directors.

Resource Kit for First 10 Registrants
The training it limited to 20 schools. The first 10 schools to register will receive the a Resource Kit with the Policy Institute Complete Manual and membership in the International Consortium of Students Against Sexual Violence (ICSASV).

What is Respect My Red?
RMR is an engaging, interactive curriculum on respectful relationships. RMR teaches the components of healthy relationships and in turn reduces the incidence of sexual harassment and assault. The curricula tackle four critical aspects of culture change: knowledge, attitude, behavior, and pro-social bystander skills. The institute features interactive theatre, social media, and case studies.

What will I experience at RMR?
Attend the RMR Training Institute to work with fellow attendees in “quick-shops,” participate in an interactive case study, and learn new skills from inspiring and highly skilled trainers. RMR is accommodating of all faith and cultural backgrounds. Learn how to effect culture change with primary prevention and bystander intervention.

What will I leave with?

RMR Level 1 Certification
The curriculum was developed with over fifty leading researchers and experts in the fields of sexual assault prevention, sexual health, psychology, sociology, mental health and healthy relationships. Based on students successful completion of pre and post test.

A Plan, the Tools and the Skills
Private or public. Large or small. Religious or nondenominational. Athletes, scholars and artists. Urban or rural. Respect My Red has options for each. Be ready to implement as soon as you get back to your campus.

Consortium Membership
An invitation to participate in the International Consortium of Students Against Sexual Violence (ICSASV), a private peer-to-peer platform for engaging students around healthy relationship best practices.

Essential Skills and Training

  • Understand current laws and policies on consent and incapacitation related to sexual assault.
  • Learn characteristics of healthy and unhealthy relationships.
  • Train on a comprehensive up-stander program with ready-to-use curricula.
  • Understand definitions and manifestations of technology-related sexual assault, harassment, consent, incapacitation, alcohol-related issues, sexual exploitation, relationship abuse, stalking, dating violence and more.
  • Practice your skills and knowledge in “quickshops” with peers during the event.
  • Learn how to reach and engage peers from various backgrounds, including gender, race, religious affiliation, socio-economic background, and sexual orientation.

RMR Resource Kit
The RMR Institute Resource Kit will be made available to all attendees online as a password protected link. The link will be sent electronically to the email address you provided during your Eventbrite registration for the Institute. At this link you will find materials for further study, training webinars and curriculum guides. The link will be active for 30 days.

Part 1 for School Administrators 5:30 PM – 8:00 PM

5:00 pm Check-in
5:30 pm Opening Remarks and Institute Orientation
Ms. Cory Izokaitis, Head of Upper School, Columbus Academy and Katie Koestner, President of COS
5:35 pm Fundamentals
What is sexual misconduct vs. sexual assault vs. sexual harassment?  What is the difference between effective consent and affirmative consent? Learn the essentials from the start.
5:45 pm Interactive Case Study: I Said – You Said
Listen as two presenters describe their versions of a sexual interaction. This case serves as the Institute’s foundation.
6:00 pm Adults will make their way to the Administrator Session
6:10 pm POLICY Session: Fundamentals for Employee and Student Handbooks
What must handbooks include about sexual misconduct? How is the term defined? Understand coercion vs. consent and intoxication vs. incapacitation. What rights, if any, should be stated in the handbook? Topics:

  • Criminal vs. civil vs. school definitions
  • Sexual exploitation
  • Sexual assault vs. rape
  • Same-sex sexual assault
  • Technology-related sexual misconduct (sexting)
6:40 pm PROTOCOL Session: Responding Appropriately to Incidents
Checklist of practical response when someone knows or reasonably should know that an incident has occurred. Compliance with mandated reporting for K-12, Clery, VAWA, and state laws for school administrators. Topics:

  • Reporting obligations
  • Responding to the accused
  • Rape-Related Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
  • 3rd party reports
  • Interactions with media and parents
7:10 pm PROCEDURES Session: Investigations and Discipline with Risk Management Mindfulness
What are best practices for addressing policy violations to successfully balance punishment, education, contract compliance, risk management, legal compliance, and most importantly institutional mission? Learn when to involve parents, legal counsel, and criminal authorities. Topics:

  • Philosophical approach:  Education vs. Discipline
  • Investigation process
  • Burden and standard of proof
  • Jurisdiction
7:40 pm PREVENTION Session: Educating and Training for Students and Employees with Research-Supported Content
Understand the ways to impart school policies during training for all members of your community to increase adoption and ensure compliance with state and federal guidelines that, in turn, can reduce liability. Topics:

  • Educating males vs. females
  • Cultural sensitivity and international student issues
  • Developmental models for all ages
  • Peer leadership and bystander intervention
  • Education for adults
  • Developmental models for all ages
7:55 pm Closing Remarks & Questions

 

 

 

Part 2 for Student Leaders and Advisors 5:30 PM – 8:00 PM

5:00 pm Check-in
5:30 pm Opening Remarks and Institute Orientation
Ms. Cory Izokaitis, Head of Upper School, Columbus Academy and Katie Koestner, President of COS
5:35 pm Fundamentals
What is sexual misconduct vs. sexual assault vs. sexual harassment?  What is the difference between effective consent and affirmative consent? Learn the essentials from the start.
5:45 pm Interactive Case Study: He Said-She Said
Listen as two students describe a night of partying and sexual interaction. This case serves as the Institute’s foundation.
6:00 pm Adults will make their way to the Administrator Session
6:00 pm KNOWLEDGE Session: Essential Definitions, Policies, and Laws
What is a healthy relationship? What is abuse? What is consent and what is not consent? How do alcohol and other drugs affect relationships and our bodies? Do you know what the difference is between incapacitated and drunk? Or, what is coercion and what is persuasion? Who is responsible for risk reduction? Topics:

  • Healthy Relationships vs. Intimate Partner Violence and Abuse
  • Sexual exploitation, harassment, stalking
  • Sexual assault and rape
  • Same-sex sexual assault
  • Technology-related sexual misconduct (sexting)
  • Criminal vs. civil vs. school definitions
6:30 pm ATTITUDE Session: Where Do You Stand?
Are you biased? Would you know it if you were? How strongly do you feel about an issue and why? How does this impact your ability to be an effective leader? More specifically, what are common attitudes about relationships, respect and substance use? Do you go along to get along? Topics:

  • Where do we obtain our attitudes? Media, parents, peers?
  • Rape myths and victim blaming
  • Bias based on gender, sexuality, religion, age, economic status, race, and more
  • What is normal vs. what is “over the line”?
  • How can we change the attitudes of others?
  • How do we shift the NORM and perception of the NORM?
7:00 pm BEHAVIOR Session: It’s not what you say; it’s what you DO that counts
How do we impact what people choose to do? How do we set the standard for Respect? Topics:

  • Why do people say one thing and do another?
  • What are the real ways to bring about changes in behavior?
  • What works best for various ages, genders, religious backgrounds, and other demographic variables?
  • How can I create an environment that reduces the likelihood of disrespectful behaviors?
  • What does respectful treatment of others look like? What is the goal?
  • How can I be thoughtful about various beliefs and values regarding sexuality and relationships?
7:30 pm BYSTANDER Session: How BOLD are you?
Are you really comfortable taking a public stand on an issue? What motivates you to fight the fire yourself vs. wait for the firetruck to arrive? What’s the difference between being labeled a tattletale vs. a hero? When should we get help in addressing concerning behavior? Learn when to involve parents, legal counsel, and criminal authorities. Understand how bystanders are truly the norm-setters in any community. Topics:

  • Assess your philosophical approach:  Educational vs. Disciplinary.
  • What is a bystander vs. an up-stander?
  • What are approaches for students vs. adults?
  • When is it best to confront one on one vs. in a group?
  • How should you approach an alleged victim vs. alleged perpetrator?
  • Cultural sensitivity and international student issues
  • Developmental models for all ages
7:55 pm Closing Keynote and Program Review with Post-Institute Test

 

 

Institute Faculty Biographies*

KATIE KOESTNER
EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR, CAMPUS OUTREACH SERVICES
Katie Koestner is a national expert on student safety and technology issues. She has appeared on the cover of TIME Magazine, The Oprah Winfrey Show, NBC Nightly News, CNBC Talk Live, CNN, Larry King Live, Good Morning America, Later Today, MSNBC, Entertainment Tonight and other national television programs. She is the subject of an HBO movie and has lectured at over 5000 schools in North America. Her audiences have included the incoming classes at MIT, Brown University, West Point, the US Naval Academy, Amherst College, Williams College, the top 200 officers of the Department of Defense, and the American Association of School Administrators. In 2010, the US Ambassador to India invited Katie to keynote and lead a 19-day campaign in India to raise awareness about Violence Against Women. In 2011, Ms. Koestner’s Foundation, Take Back The Night, was chosen by the TV Show, The Good Wife, as their charity of choice for their Celebrity Golf Tournament. The Girl Scouts of America selected Katie, Katie Couric and a handful of others as honored women to present for their 100th Anniversary Celebration.   She has assisted the US Department of Education in developing and providing programs to women in high risk communities.   Her testimony on Capitol Hill was instrumental in the passage of federal student safety legislation. In 2007, Coe College awarded her an honorary doctorate for her extensive work on student safety and public service. In 2015, the US Department of State chose Katie to work with a delegation of Chinese diplomates at the United Nations on strategies to reduce sexual and relationship violence.

SANDRA MILES
VICE PROVOST FOR STUDENT AFFAIRS, DEAN OF STUDENTS, UNIVERSITY OF MISSOURI, ACTIVIST & SPEAKER
Dr. Sandra Miles is the Vice Provost for Student Affairs – Dean of Students at the University of Missouri Kansas City (UMKC). Within her role she oversees the Division of Student Affairs which includes the Office of Student Involvement, Swinney Recreation Center, Dining Services, the Student Union, Atterbury Student Success Center, Campus Bookstore, Counseling, Health, Testing, Disability Services, Multicultural Student Affairs, Veterans Support Services, Women’s Center, Student Conduct and Civility, and Residential Life. As the Chief Student Affairs Officer, Dr. Miles serves on the Provost’s Senior Leadership Team, Academic Council, and Administrative Council. In addition to these responsibilities, Dr. Miles is heavily involved in strategy development to establish a robust student success model for UMKC.

Further, her research interests include issues of women and minorities in higher education and the 21st century White male experience. Dr. Miles presents her research annually at national and regional conference meetings. Dr. Miles completed her doctoral work at Florida State University in 2012, earning a Ph.D. in Higher Education Administration with a minor in Public Administration and an emphasis on Women’s Studies. She completed her Bachelor’s degree in Political CampusOutreachServices.com | Inspire@CampusOutreachServices.com | 866.966.9013 Science (Honors in the Major) at the University of Central Florida where she also earned a Master’s degree in Student Personnel Administration.

In addition to her career achievements, Dr. Sandra Miles serves on NASPA Center for Women Advisory Board, is the Immediate Past National Director of the Black Female Development Circle, Inc. and is an active member of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc.

TIERRA BARBER
DIVERSITY & INCLUSIVITY NATIONAL EDUCATOR AND ACTIVIST
Tierra Barber has worked professionally in athletics at the local and national level for over a decade. Within Baylor University Athletics, she served as a Study Hall and Tutor Coordinator, Academic Advisor, and as the Assistant Athletic Director for Student-Athlete Development. A natural leader, Ms. Barber has been the Chair of the Student-Athlete Development Committee, a recipient of the Professional Promise Award, and served on the board for N4A (National Association of Academic Athletic Advisors).

Ms. Barber has been active on the NCAA Membership and Student-Athlete Development Committees and these national positions have enabled her to reach hundreds of student-athletes across the United States. Tierra has served as a facilitator for the NCAA Career in Sports Forum and Leadership Forum, and with NFL Prep 1oo. In 2011, Ms. Barber attended the NCAA Leadership Institute. She then became the Director of the Baylor Leadership Academy helping over 75 student-athletes identify and excel in their leadership annually. She has taught a freshman course that helps student athletes transition into collegiate athletics, the university, and the community. Currently, Ms. Barber trains and presents nationally on sexual misconduct, hazing, diversity, harassment, cyber-civility and appropriate use of social media.

GORDON BRAXTON
MEN’S OUTREACH AND FORMER DIRECTOR OF HARVARD UNIVERSITY’S MEN’S PREVENTION & EDUCATION PROGRAM
The November 2015 issue of Ebony magazine identified Gordon Braxton as a “superman” because he is a committed activist focused on fighting intimate violence. He is a graduate of the University of Virginia and has a Master’s in Education from Harvard. He began his work in sexual violence prevention as a peer educator in an all-male anti-violence group at the University of Virginia as an undergraduate. UVA awarded him the Algernon Sidney Sullivan Award, the University’s highest award for humanitarian service. He also won the Black Fraternal Council’s Man of the Year Award, among other distinctions. Upon Gordon’s graduation, he began working with COS and presented to over 200 secondary schools, colleges, universities, community organizations, and military institutions throughout the country. From 2005 to 2009, Gordon was the Prevention Specialist at Harvard University’s Office of Sexual Assault Prevention and Response and helped implement the school’s violence prevention policies. He remains an ally to the violence prevention community as a blogger on manhood and rape culture, as a part-time public speaker, and as an occasional contributor to radio and television engagements.

Gordon’s work has been featured in the Huffington Post, Ebony Magazine, and VoiceMale. He is the recipient of the Men of Vision Award by Virginians Aligned Against Sexual Assault, the 2000 Gilbert J. Sullivan Award from the University of Virginia’s Parents Program; the 2001 Gregory Raven Batipps Scholarship; and the Association of Black Harvard Women’s 2007 “Strivers in the Community” Panel Position. Gordon has keynoted conferences and events at Harvard, Brown, University of San Diego, Colorado College, Fordham University, and over 100 other schools.

NYK ROBERTSON
INCLUSIVITY DIRECTOR & DIRECTOR, INTERCULTURAL CENTER OF SWARTHMORE COLLEGE
Nyk Robertson grew up in Kansas as a young queer person. Their struggle with reconciling their family, religion, queerness and gender identity in small town America is what built their resilience as well as drive to support others going through similar struggles. They currently work with undergraduate students specifically offering services and support for Asian American, LatinX, Multiracial, Native American, Queer (Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender), low-income, international, and first-generation college students.

Nyk has a bachelor’s degree in English with a minor in poetry and a Master’s in Gender Culture Studies. Their academic research involves looking at the ways in which language constructs a subjectivity for gender non-binary folx and how spoken word poetry produces a space for this language to be created in a way other literature does not. Nyk considers every presentation another opportunity to share this language and these lived experiences of the LGBTQ+ community with more folx and broaden the conversation around these experiences. Nyk’s personal journey was not an easy one, yet it provides a powerful door to open the conversation to those who may not have considered

*Note: Some changes may be made to the roster of presenters based on availability. However, all trainers will be highly credentialed, experienced experts.

 

Are there ID or minimum age requirements to checkin at the event?
You will need to bring a valid student or school ID to checkin. Student attendees must be Juniors or at least 14 years old and have parent/guardian permission to attend. Additionally, schools sending minors must have at least 1 adult for every 4 minors.

What are my transportation/parking options for getting to and from the event?
Free parking is available at the event.

Do I have to bring my printed ticket to the event?
Please bring a printed copy of your ticket to check-in.

 

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When:
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