Respect My Red works to make respect the standard for students and communities.

RMR educates on respectful relationships and pro-social upstander skills. 


Respect My Red originated with the simple concept that each of us has the right to be treated like a red light regarding our personal space and bodies.

If we can teach children as young as 5 that no one should be able to touch them without their permission, we will effective created a culture of respectful interactions. The default will be to get permission BEFORE any contact.


RMR stems from nearly three decades of partnership in training and education with 5000+ institutions and organizations throughout the US and around the world.

Our research and practice driven curricula produce quantitative and qualitative improvements on scores assessing knowledge, attitude, behaviors and upstander skills.

RMR fosters respectful community culture by increasing awareness and upstander engagement on sexual harassment, sexual misconduct, boundary crossing, and online harassment.

Participants understand how to stand firmly in their commitment to respectful boundaries, the importance of consent, and stepping in to intervene in prevention of harm to others.


RMR is a certification training program committed to being accessible and appropriate for all educational institutions, military bases, organizations, faith groups, and corporations. Our educational trainings are inclusive, engaging, and have proven results.

RMR utilizes our own core curricular model of Knowledge, Attitude, Behavior, Upstander Skills (KABU) and Brain-Heart balance methodology. We work with each host location to customize the content to be developmentally and culturally appropriate for their participants.

RMR does not provide “sex education” or encourage sexual activity. Yet, RMR educates on the policies and legal standards around consent, coercion and incapacitation. We believe each of us has the power to intervene when we witness disrespectful or high-risk situations. The first step in learning intervention skills is being able to clearly identify what constitutes harassment, dating abuse, and other demeaning behaviors.

Our philosophy can be likened to teaching the laws regarding substance use, underaged drinking and the risks around inhalants. We don’t expect people to start using alcohol and other drugs just because they understand the issues and the laws.

Respect My Red Selfie Frame on a College Campus to end Domestic Violence

Hosts & Participants

Flexible, innovative curricula match your institution’s culture, mission, and values, sexual orientation, and any other demographic backgrounds.

All organizations:

Public and independent schools
Institutions of higher education
Military bases

All demographics:

  • Race
  • Gender identity
  • Sexual orientation
  • Religious beliefs and faiths
  • Socioeconomic status
  • National origin and ethnicities
  • Age
  • Disabilities

Respect My Red because I love myself and I will not give in to pressure or have someone harm me.

Madison D.