Training Institute Overview

Respect My Red Leadership Training Institute and Certification for Student Leaders, Faculty and School Professionals. An interactive training course on peer leadership, respectful relationships and sexual misconduct.

Sample Student Session Agenda

5:30-6:00 pm Check-in, Pizza, Refreshments
6:00-6:05 pm Opening Remarks and Institute Orientation
Katie Koestner, President of COS; Ryan Silva, Principal, Cherry Creek High School
6:05-6:30 pm Katie’s Story:  Spokesperson and Leadership at 18
Katie Koestner, President of COS
6:30-6:50 pm Interactive Case Study:  He Said-She Said
Listen as two students describe their version of what happened at a party. This case serves as the foundation.
Leads:  Will Hannum, Ryan Shank and Sandra Miles10 Minute QuipShop: Table top exercise in small groups.
7:00-7:20 pm KNOWLEDGE Session:  Essential Definitions, Policies, and Laws
What is a healthy relationship?  What is abuse?  What is consent and what is not consent?  How do alcohol and other drugs affect relationships and our bodies?  Do you know what the difference is between incapacitated and drunk?  Or, what is coercion and what is persuasion?  Who is responsible for risk reduction?Topics:

  • Healthy Relationships vs. Intimate Partner Violence and Abuse
  • Sexual exploitation, harassment, stalking
  • Sexual assault and rape
  • Same-sex sexual assault
  • Technology-related sexual misconduct (sexting)
  • Criminal vs. civil vs. school definitions
7:20-7:50 pm ATTITUDE Session:  Where Do You Stand?
Are you biased?  Would you know it if you were?  How strongly do you feel about an issue and why?  How does this impact your ability to be an effective leader?  More specifically, what are common attitudes about relationships, respect and substance use?  Do you go along to get along?Topics:

  • Where do we obtain our attitudes?  Media, parents, peers?
  • Rape myths and victim blaming
  • Bias based on gender, sexuality, religion, age, economic status, race, and more
  • What is normal vs. what is “over the line”?
  • How can we change the attitudes of others?
  • How do we shift the NORM and perception of the NORM?
7:50-8:15 pm BEHAVIOR Session:  It’s not what you say; it’s what you DO that counts.
How do we impact what people choose to do?  How do we set the standard for Respect?Topics:

  • Why do people say one thing and do another?
  • What are the real ways to bring about changes in behavior?
  • What works best for various ages, genders, religious backgrounds, and other demographic variables?
  • How can I create an environment that reduces the likelihood of disrespectful behaviors?
  • What does respectful treatment of others look like?  What is the goal?
  • How can I be thoughtful about various beliefs and values regarding sexuality and relationships?
8:15-8:45 pm BYSTANDER Session:  How BOLD are you?
Are you really comfortable taking a public stand on an issue?  What motivates you to fight the fire yourself vs. wait for the firetruck to arrive?  What’s the difference between being labeled a tattletale vs. a hero?   When should we get help in addressing concerning behavior?  Learn when to involve parents, legal counsel, and criminal authorities. Understand how bystanders are truly the norm-setters in any community.Topics:

  • Assess your philosophical approach:  Educational vs. Disciplinary.
  • What is a bystander vs. an up-stander?
  • What are approaches for students vs. adults?
  • When is it best to confront one on one vs. in a group?
  • How should you approach an alleged victim vs. alleged perpetrator?
  • Cultural sensitivity and international student issues
  • Developmental models for all ages
8:45-8:55 pm Closing Remarks

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Sample Adult Session Agenda

5:00 pm Check-in
5:30 pm Opening Remarks and Institute Orientation
Ms. Susanna Jones, Head of School, Holton-Arms School and Katie Koestner, President of COS
5:35 pm Fundamentals
What is sexual misconduct vs. sexual assault vs. sexual harassment? What is the difference between effective consent and affirmative consent? Learn the essentials from the start.
5:45 pm Interactive Case Study:  I Said – You Said
Listen as two presenters describe their versions of a sexual interaction. This case serves as the Institute’s foundation.
6:00 pm Adults will make their way to the Administrator Session
6:10 pm POLICY Session: Fundamentals for Employee and Student Handbooks
What must handbooks include about sexual misconduct? How is the term defined? Understand coercion vs. consent and intoxication vs. incapacitation. What rights, if any, should be stated in the handbook? 


  • Criminal vs. civil vs. school definitions
  • Sexual exploitation
  • Sexual assault vs. rape
  • Same-sex sexual assault
  • Technology-related sexual misconduct (sexting)
6:40 pm PROTOCOL Session: Responding Appropriately to Incidents
Checklist of practical response when someone knows or reasonably should know that an incident has occurred. Compliance with mandated reporting for K-12, Clery, VAWA, and state laws for school administrators. 


  • Reporting obligations
  • Responding to the accused
  • Rape-Related Post Traumatic Stress Disorder
  • 3rd party reports
  • Interactions with media and parents
7:10 pm PROCEDURES Session: Investigations and Discipline with Risk Management Mindfulness
What are best practices for addressing policy violations to successfully balance punishment, education, contract compliance, risk management, legal compliance, and most importantly institutional mission? Learn when to involve parents, legal counsel, and criminal authorities. 


  • Philosophical approach: Education vs. Discipline
  • Investigation process
  • Burden and standard of proof
  • Jurisdiction
7:40 pm PREVENTION Session: Educating and Training for Students and Employees with Research-Supported Content
Understand the ways to impart school policies during training for all members of your community to increase adoption and ensure compliance with state and federal guidelines that, in turn, can reduce liability. 

Topics Addressed:

  • Educating males vs. females
  • Cultural sensitivity and international student issues
  • Developmental models for all ages
  • Peer leadership and bystander intervention
  • Education for adults
  • Developmental models for all ages
7:55 pm Closing Remarks and Questions

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